If your spouse refuses to agree to a divorce, you may wonder whether you are permanently trapped in the marriage. The short answer is yes; you can divorce without your spouse’s consent in Nigeria.

For a statutory marriage, your spouse does not have to sign divorce papers or agree to the marriage being dissolved. However, you must satisfy the court that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. Consent is relevant only in one limited situation: where you rely on the fact that you and your spouse have lived apart for at least two years and the respondent consents to the decree.

This blog explains the position under the Matrimonial Causes Act of Nigeria, the relevant grounds for divorce in Nigeria, and the divorce process you should expect.

What Nigerian Law Says About Divorce Without Consent

Under Section 15(1) of the Matrimonial Causes Act Nigeria, the sole ground for divorce is that the marriage has broken down irretrievably.

This means that the court does not grant a divorce simply because one spouse says, “I no longer want to remain married.” The petitioner must prove at least one of the facts recognised under Section 15(2) of the Act.

Once the court is satisfied that the marriage has irretrievably broken down, your spouse’s refusal to consent does not generally prevent the court from granting a divorce.

The process is therefore not based on mutual agreement. It is based on evidence and the court’s determination that the legal requirements have been met.

Facts That Prove Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage in Nigeria

Under Section 15(2) of the Matrimonial Causes Act, the petitioner must establish at least one recognised fact showing an irretrievable breakdown of marriage in Nigeria. The principal facts include:

• Adultery and intolerable living together: Your spouse has committed adultery, and you find it intolerable to continue living with them.
• Unreasonable behaviour: Your spouse has behaved in a way that makes it unreasonable to expect you to continue living together. This may include violence, serious cruelty, persistent neglect, substance abuse, or other conduct that makes married life untenable.
• Desertion for at least one year: Your spouse has deserted you for a continuous period of not less than one year immediately before the petition is filed.
• Two years’ separation with consent: You and your spouse have lived apart continuously for at least two years, and your spouse does not oppose the grant of the decree.
• Three years’ separation without consent: You and your spouse have lived apart continuously for at least three years. In this case, your spouse’s consent is not required.
• Failure to comply with a restitution of conjugal rights decree: Your spouse has failed to comply with such a decree for at least one year.
• Presumed death: Your spouse has been absent for a period and in circumstances that provide reasonable grounds for presuming that they are dead.
• Wilful refusal to consummate the marriage: The marriage remains unconsummated because one spouse has wilfully and persistently refused to consummate it.

You only need to prove one of these facts, although a petition may rely on more than one where the circumstances justify it. The evidence required will depend on the facts of your case.

When Does Consent Actually Matter?

The most important distinction concerns the separation periods under the Act.

Two years’ separation

If you and your spouse have lived apart for at least two years, you may rely on this fact only where the respondent consents to the decree of dissolution. If your spouse objects, this particular fact may not be sufficient to obtain the divorce.

This is the narrow situation where consent has a direct legal role.

Three years’ separation

If you have lived apart continuously for at least three years, you can petition on that basis without your spouse’s consent. Your spouse may still participate in the proceedings, but their refusal to agree is not a veto.

Therefore, if you are asking, “Can you divorce without consent in Nigeria?”, the answer is clearly yes. If your spouse will not consent after two years of separation, you may need to rely on another fact: such as unreasonable behaviour: or wait until the three-year separation period is complete.

The Divorce Process in Nigeria

For a statutory or monogamous marriage conducted under the Marriage Act, the divorce is commenced in the appropriate State High Court or the High Court of the Federal Capital Territory.

The usual process involves the following steps:

1. Preparing and filing the petition: The petitioner files a divorce petition setting out the details of the marriage, the legal fact relied upon, and any related claims concerning children, maintenance, custody, or property.
2. Service on the respondent: The petition and accompanying documents are served on the other spouse. The respondent may file an answer, defend the case, or choose not to contest it.
3. Reconciliation efforts: The court may consider whether reconciliation is possible. This does not mean that you must remain in the marriage indefinitely or obtain your spouse’s permission.
4. Hearing and evidence: The petitioner presents evidence supporting the claim that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. The respondent may also present evidence where the petition is contested.
5. Decree nisi: If the court is satisfied, it grants a decree nisi. This is a provisional decree and does not yet finally dissolve the marriage.
6. Decree absolute: Usually, after at least three months, the decree nisi may be made absolute, subject to any applicable objection, appeal, or issue concerning the welfare of children.

You remain legally married until the decree absolute is issued. You should not remarry before that stage.

There is also a significant timing restriction. Generally, you cannot commence divorce proceedings within the first two years of the marriage without obtaining leave, or permission, from the court. Leave may be granted in exceptional circumstances, including exceptional hardship or serious misconduct.

Customary Marriages Follow a Different Track

The statutory divorce process described above applies to marriages under the Marriage Act. It does not automatically apply to every Nigerian marriage.

A divorce for customary marriage in Nigeria is governed by the applicable native law and custom. The matter may be handled through a Customary Court, Area Court, or another competent authority, depending on the jurisdiction and the custom involved.

Customary dissolution may involve:

• A complaint or application before the relevant court;
• Evidence of grounds recognised by the applicable custom;
• Involvement of family representatives or elders;
• Return of the bride price, or a formal renunciation of the right to demand its return.

The procedure and requirements can differ significantly between communities. It is therefore important to establish the nature of your marriage before filing any proceedings. Where appropriate, marriage counselling may also form part of the broader family-law support available to you.

Can Your Spouse prevent a Divorce by Refusing to Sign?

No. Your spouse cannot block a divorce simply by refusing to sign documents, attend a meeting, or give personal consent.

In an uncontested divorce in Nigeria, the respondent may choose not to oppose the petition, which can make the proceedings more straightforward. However, a contested divorce can still proceed if the respondent files an answer or raises objections.

A respondent may challenge the case on legally recognised grounds, such as:

• The parties were not validly married under the relevant law;
• The petition contains material inaccuracies;
• There has been collusion or an abuse of the court process;
• The petitioner has condoned the conduct relied upon;
• The required statutory fact has not been proved.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I file for divorce if I can’t Locate my Spouse

Yes. Desertion, prolonged absence, or circumstances supporting a presumption of death may be relevant. You will still need to comply with procedural requirements and provide sufficient evidence.

How do I file for divorce in Nigeria?

For a statutory marriage, you usually begin by instructing a legal practitioner to prepare and file a divorce petition in the Nigeria High Court with jurisdiction. The petition must identify the marriage, the facts relied upon, and any additional reliefs requested.

Is my spouse required to sign the divorce petition?

No. The petition is filed by the petitioner. Your spouse must generally be served with the proceedings, but their signature or consent is not required for the court to determine the case.

Conclusion

Divorce is both a legal and personal decision. Mistakes in identifying the type of marriage, selecting the correct court, or pleading the appropriate facts may delay your case and complicate related issues such as custody, maintenance, and property.

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